Don't judge a book by its cover?

It had been a few days since last contact was made, and I was wondering what she was up to. This evening I got a msg from her and from the small talk we had, I gathered that she was fine and enjoying herself out and about. She had been on a tour, so that's probably why I didn't hear from her in this time. It seemed like her connection was on and off so I didn't really get a good chance to say much, but after she left I saw that she left some new photos.

These photos have made me think a lot about her, and I'm not too positive about it. In fact, it's sort of made me down. The photos appear to be of her and her mates on a trip. All fine and dandy, but there were shots of her uncovered and a couple of shots with her and a particular boy. I understand that we have nothing going on, and it is her right to do whatever she wants, but for someone like me to see these pictures it's just a turn off.

So, she was uncovered...maybe she's turned over a new leaf and wants to get closer to Allah. This is the optimistic me, and there was a hint that it was the case in one of her messages. InsyaAllah she is. I should look at myself before judging others anyway.

So, she was with a guy who put his hand around her...this one rings alarm bells for me. Unless they're related, I do't know what to say. Maybe that's normal for her, but isn't for me. Even so, as a Muslimah there are certain boundaries, right? You can be friendly but is this a little too friendly or am I exaggerating?

Either way, what am I supposed to think now? I am seeing the cover of the book, and I am already judging. How do I stop this so that I can see this as objectively as possible? How do I decipher all this information to know if she is 'the one'? I'm seeing this as a test. I am comparing her to Her and it's making me slip back into that time where I can't move on from Her. I was starting to get over Her with her, starting to finally see that there might be a better person for me, but this thing, what I saw tonight just turned that upside down!

I shouldn't be comparing people this way, because everyone's abilities are different. But I know that having known Her for this amount of time has somewhat shaped the kind of person I'd like to be with. I always ask Allah to be with someone that will get me closer to Him, and someone whom I can help to get closer to Him. Right now I need to find a way to determine if that person is her. How do we know what's in someone's heart?

All this time we've connected...is that a good sign? Is that a measure of our sincerity? She seems sincere in her conversations with me, and I've just responded in a similar manner. But in the back of my mind I'm always wondering how much she thinks about her faith. It's the most important factor when selecting a spouse isn't it?

I will leave with this final thought: sincerity starts in the heart and mind, and ends with actions.